We hit bumps on the road to health from time to time, but "fixing" our bodies is not like repairing a dishwasher or a car. In fact, Systems Theory holds that the interaction of component parts is as important as the parts themselves. It is vital that we take on this holistic viewpoint as we recognize the contribution of each to the whole. And to that effect, the whole is more properly measured by how the system functions, not simply how it looks on paper or in a photograph. When we consider function as the most essential attribute to our being, than we can look at the factors that influence it, beyond the narrowly prescriptive recommendations of physically oriented approaches. In this regard, we can quickly see how following the rhythms and cycles of nature is critical to our well-being. (notice, the verb "being" used here.)

Now let's return to the subject of stillness and the quiet time that this lunar cycle requires. The world, especially with the influence of the digital age, has created a difficult medium where we find it quite difficult to slow down--symptomatic of an insane world, we are likely to be faulted for doing so. It is rare to see one disconnected for more than even an hour, not texting, logging on or tuning in. In this society, to disconnect or be 'unplugged' is almost frowned upon....how could you have missed the headlines or the tweet of the day?

Our society has a way of making us feel inferior for being quiet, but it is a brave and beneficial choice (indeed a sane one) to embrace moments of silence. Now is the best possible time, after the holidays, to unload and get back into normal rhythm. Welcome silence and stop talking for a moment. Remember, less talking means more listening. Indeed, there is more to hear beyond the chatter.

Please share your thoughts... 

Since the holidays, my husband and I have been struggling even more than usual. We started with a small fight and ever since, all we do is argue. It's been an ongoing struggle and it doesn't seem to be anywhere close to resolution. I've been trying to rationalize with him, but we seem to be stuck in a bad place. How do we get out of this situation? 

Answer:  

Solutions in relationships are rarely easy, but in this case, the solution actually might be more simple than you realize.

In short, drop it.

If you're constantly arguing, it means you're both constantly talking. Chances are, both of you have already said all you've needed to say, and the conversation has become circular. Stop talking, be quiet and listen...not even to each other, necessarily, but to the silence. Find solace in that silence. People fear not getting in their last word, but responding isn't always conducive to resolution. On the contrary, it can dig both of you into your positions more firmly. Take comfort in the quiet and maybe by not speaking, you may hear something new and actually find the way out. Quite often, once the dust settles, couples realize that they were fighting with phantoms and projections. Sometimes we need the time and space to realize how we can get caught up in that now and then. 

The truth is, in all good relationships, this happens from time to time. Looking back, can you remember a similar cycle in the past? You obviously got through it. Have faith and trust each other. Show compassion, ultimately knowing the truth that if your commitment to each other is strong that you will get through this as well. Instead of forcing it, give it time and space. Often that is the best solution.

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